I don't know about you, but I pay a lot of attention to words. I subconsciously react not only to their meaning, but also to the whole baggage of context, power, associations that they carry. Ever since I can remember, I didn't like the word " must" . It reminded me of something completely contrary to my nature, lack of freedom, compulsion. Of course, life has verified a lot and I have come to terms with the fact that "must" is also an element of everyday life, and what's more, I know that sometimes I have to do something in order to enjoy freedom later. It was/is similar with the word " should" . I have never liked patterns, I always preferred to feel that I can (or can't ) do something, rather than that I should . Perhaps the prejudice against this word came from the yard, when my friend Tomek from the next door block said one day that I was a girl and I should play rubber, not build structures in the sandbox. And I really preferred building than jumping, and how did Tomek know what I should and what I shouldn't do? As you can see, my ponytail with a green bow was a sufficient premise for him... With the perspective of time and experience, I have also tamed this word. I know my limits and I know when I should move on and when I should stop, when I should continue talking and when I should keep my words to myself. Because this is also an art. I understood that should can really have a lot to do with empathy towards others, but also with knowing yourself. It's a good word... when we allow it, of course.
I have always felt differently about the words I want and I can.
Because it's freedom, because it's possibilities, a million ideas per minute and nothing is impossible .
For a very long time I paid attention to constructing my reality in such a way that I could and wanted , and not had to . But life – as life is – showed me these words in a different dimension. As I got older – and this does not sound cruel, but how natural – I understood that sometimes it is really good not to be able to do something, in fact it is great to know what you do not want , because then you understand yourself better and what you want for yourself. I also think that it is good to learn to accept that I cannot do something and to stop repeating after various mentors that I can do everything . No, I cannot and do not have to be able to do everything. I may not be able to do it and it does not make me worse or better: it is simply an element of my life.
Okay… I'm talking about life, mentors, meanings... but what do all these words actually have to do with cosmetics and care? More than I thought. And I realized it a few days ago, when I was doing an evening facial massage and thought that I accept that I have to do it to look better, and that I should do it regularly, because at my age, the skin already requires it... but the most important meaning and what affects me the most is the awareness that I want to give myself a daily dose of pleasure with my favorite cream and that I can thus not only improve the condition of my skin, but also my well-being. My must and should are not that bad, but when I add to that I want and can , even daily care immediately gains strength 😉
That is why I wish for myself and for you: let us remember how much depends on our attitude, but also that it is we who give meaning to words.
